March 19, 2020
All of this is pretty unsettling. Not knowing for sure what’s fact or fiction. Stay home or go out? Rice/canned food or toilet paper/milk? Selfishly hoard shit at the market or selflessly buy just what is practical. It’s a lot to digest. Our parents present another set of challenges. There are some things we can and should do to take care of ourselves in times of uncertainty. Here are three of them.
1. Limit social media/stop arguing online. Yes, you’re self-quarantined (or mandated), not going out as much, so your options on how to spend your time are limited. Online comments from people disagreeing about whether to wear a mask or not, who to blame for all this, what countries are getting it right/wrong, etc just serve to keep your nervous system aroused and activated, ready for fight/flight (and this is not good). Know the importance of separating facts from fear. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders. Find a source or two that report facts, get updates from these outlets, and allow yourself to tune out the rest. (Side note suggestion: instead of following the righteous know-it-all or the girl who only posts selfies, follow people like the.holistic.psychologist and mindfulmft on IG. These two accounts are amazing for healing, and personal/spiritual growth. Rick Hanson is a neuroscientist and has a great newsletter to subscribe to).
2. Create a healthy routine that elevates your heart rate (exercise) and quiets the mind (meditation or a hobby like cooking, gardening, writing, etc). One reason why yoga is so healthy is it requires your awareness and attention to hold that challenging pose. In that moment, your monkey mind is much less active because you’re so focused on how not to fall down in this pose and break your arm. Finding outlets that lend to sharpening focus and practicing mindfulness are vital for mental and physical nourishment… Continue reading Robert Oleskevich’s article on Hero’s journey Therapy.
Robert Oleskevich, is a licensed psychotherapist, world traveler, and an expat. He lived in over 30 different countries, worked with adolescents, expats, and third culture kids. These days, he provides counseling and therapy to people dealing with the social and emotional challenges of living in Asia, with a focus on expats in HCMC Vietnam.
Know more about Robert on www.herosjourneytherapy.com